I apoligized for not knocking, but he just said come in and close the door. One day around lunch time, I opened the door to his office and there he was taking off his pants. Anything I could do to spend time with him. I would buy him coffee, soda, or his favorite meatloaf sandwich from Boston Market. As the store manager, Trey he spent alot of time in his little office in back, but I became the biggest brown nose around. I looked for any opportunity to be around this guy. We talked for a long time, I just love being around him. I was sure my boner had blown my chance of this job. I was sure he saw my boner, but what the hell what could I do. With no other options I had to get up and go with him. He wanted to take me on a tour of the facility but I was hard as a rock. I could tell he was circumsized and could tell he was not super well endowed. Seeing his cock, balls, those blue eyes and his rugged good looks caused me to get hard. This movement made his balls and cock visible. During the interview he moved around alot in his chair which forced movement of his pants. I wouldn’t say he was handsome, but he had the most beautiful blue eyes I’d ever seen. When I say younger, Trey was in his early 30s, and extremly desirable. I applied for a job at a retail store and was interviewed by an extremely sexy younger manager his name was Trey. Sometimes because of the eyes, the smile, the build, or if your lucky your seen your love nude. What are the relationships of young gay men like today? It can be surprisingly difficult to answer this question with confidence.Let’s face it, EVERY gay man has fallen in love with some straight married man. Little research is being done on gay male couples-how they build and sustain their relationships, what they think about monogamy and marriage, what they believe about the attitudes of their peers. We did a self-funded study in 2010 called Beyond Monogamy. We wanted to know more about the experiences of long-term non-monogamous male couples. Because we were examining long-term relationships, we had, by definition, an older cohort participate in the study.
But we’d been hearing that younger gay men had some different perspectives. This year, we completed our Choices study, which focused on gay men ages 18-40 and explored attitudes and practices about monogamy and marriage. We discovered a lot of interesting things. Younger gay men do value monogamy more than their older counterparts. Some are applying a practice we call “being monogamish”-not exactly monogamous, but not wide open. Virtually all of our respondents believe that communicating with partners about their sexual lives is a vital part of having a successful relationship. Our study also affirmed the wonderful and creative diversity found in male couples. I think this is useful information for anyone working with gay men, and for young gay men themselves. We had a good range of representation in the study.222 responding to the qualitative questionnaire included written comments.1,429 total participants: 576 in a quantitative survey, 853 in a later qualitative survey.Convenience sample of 18-40 year old gay men, recruited through ads on Facebook and Grindr (an app geared toward gay/bisexual men interested in dating or sexual encounters).Younger Gay Men’s Perspectives on Monogamy, Non-monogamy and Marriage.These men have found many ways to build strong, healthy and loving relationships-strategies we believe would be useful for all populations. Our respondents were of varied ethnicities. They included residents from both urban and rural communities, as well as East/West Coast, Midwest and Southern regions. We did not see significant differences among these groups.Įven though we had heard anecdotally that younger men were interested in monogamy, we were surprised at how widespread this was. Eighty-six percent of couples described their relationships as monogamous-compared with 30-50% of couples among older generations.
Among single respondents in our survey, 90% were actively seeking monogamous relationships. We also heard that marriage is definitely becoming the norm. Among couples, 77% were either married, in domestic partnerships or planning to marry. Among all respondents, 62% said most of their couple friends are married or likely to marry.